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I was an early employee for the last 4 years entering into the sabatical I obviously expected my life to look really different but what I wasn't expecting were all the changes I experienced internally in this video I wanted to share the principles that I've adopted since quitting my job and how it's fundamentally changing the way I
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years entering into the sabatical I
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obviously expected my life to look
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really different but what I wasn't
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expecting were all the changes I
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experienced internally in this video I
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wanted to share the principles that I've
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adopted since quitting my job and how
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it's fundamentally changing the way I
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live and make decisions so the first principle is alignment first Direction second here was my mindset before and after adopting this principle before everything is going according to plan but something feels off after everything is uncertain but I feel at ease a perpetuating question in my 20s was what's next and no matter where I was in
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principle is alignment first Direction
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second here was my mindset before and
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after adopting this principle before
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everything is going according to plan
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but something feels off after everything
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is uncertain but I feel at ease a
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perpetuating question in my 20s was
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what's next and no matter where I was in
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life that question was just always kind of floating in the back of my head I remember after I quit my job I walked into cycl glass got my coffee and piece of paper and started writing down all of the goals that I had for my sabatical something wasn't resonating I looked
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of floating in the back of my head I
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remember after I quit my job I walked
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into cycl glass got my coffee and piece
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of paper and started writing down all of
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the goals that I had for my sabatical
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something wasn't resonating I looked
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over all the goals that i' had written and I realized that all of these were more I shoulds versus I wants rather than these arbitrary goals what I really wanted was alignment are my actions and behavior an honest reflection of the person that I say I want to be and the
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and I realized that all of these were
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more I shoulds versus I wants rather
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than these arbitrary goals what I really
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wanted was alignment are my actions and
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behavior an honest reflection of the
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person that I say I want to be and the
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things I say I want to do in other words why did I even take this sabatical in the first place later on a lot of just like random things started falling on my lap whether it was you know Consulting opportunities from startups or interview requests from top companies all very compelling and wonderful things that I
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why did I even take this sabatical in
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the first place later on a lot of just
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like random things started falling on my
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lap whether it was you know Consulting
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opportunities from startups or interview
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requests from top companies all very
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compelling and wonderful things that I
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would want but I said no because it just didn't align with my intention of why I even set foot on this path mark Manson talks about this in one of his videos and I'll play it really quick number eight if you're not turning down things that excite you then you're not focused enough on something that matters our
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didn't align with my intention of why I
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even set foot on this path mark Manson
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talks about this in one of his videos
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and I'll play it really quick number
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eight if you're not turning down things
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that excite you then you're not focused
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enough on something that matters our
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world is overflowing with stimulation and opportunity if you aren't struggling to turn down options then you haven't correctly prioritized what matters to you so the takeaway for me is that alignment allowed me to ruthlessly prioritize for the mean important thing sometimes that means saying no to things that I otherwise might have wanted number two feeling motivation from
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and opportunity if you aren't struggling
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to turn down options then you haven't
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correctly prioritized what matters to
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you so the takeaway for me is that
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alignment allowed me to ruthlessly
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prioritize for the mean important thing
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sometimes that means saying no to things
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that I otherwise might have wanted
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number two feeling motivation from
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within here was my mindset before and after I applied this principle before expectation is my fuel after curiosity is my fuel one of the biggest things that changed for me after I quit my job was I no longer had external pressures a boss a team to manage stakeholders to Wrangle okrs to hit performance reviews
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after I applied this principle before
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expectation is my fuel after curiosity
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is my fuel one of the biggest things
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that changed for me after I quit my job
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was I no longer had external pressures a
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boss a team to manage stakeholders to
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Wrangle okrs to hit performance reviews
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that graded how I did on all those things instead I had different pressures and it was time and money and as you can imagine as these pressures changed so did my motivations it went from you know I'm going need to do this thing for X because it's hitting y Milestone and
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things instead I had different pressures
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and it was time and money and as you can
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imagine as these pressures changed so
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did my motivations it went from you know
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I'm going need to do this thing for X
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because it's hitting y Milestone and
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deadline and this affects Z O Blah BL blah to what gives me energy what am I curious about what are the commitments that I want to uphold and I'm not saying that you can't hold both of these kind of motivations at once but for me I just didn't have the bandwidth to do that and
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blah to what gives me energy what am I
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curious about what are the commitments
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that I want to uphold and I'm not saying
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that you can't hold both of these kind
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of motivations at once but for me I just
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didn't have the bandwidth to do that and
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it was only when I had this new found mind space after leaving my job that I was really able to assess what gives me energy versus what doesn't and using my intuition as almost like a guide on what I should pursue versus not my therapist said something that really resonated with me and she said whatever makes that
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mind space after leaving my job that I
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was really able to assess what gives me
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energy versus what doesn't and using my
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intuition as almost like a guide on what
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I should pursue versus not my therapist
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said something that really resonated
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with me and she said whatever makes that
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inner fire within you a little brighter is worth pursuing whether or not that leads you somewhere actively choosing not to worry here was my mindset before and after I adopted this principle before so many things are out of my control so I need to be prepared after there's no point in worrying about things that may never
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is worth pursuing whether or not that
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leads you
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somewhere actively choosing not to worry
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here was my mindset before and after I
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adopted this principle before so many
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things are out of my control so I need
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to be prepared after there's no point in
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worrying about things that may never
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happen when I came into the sabatical to make a career change obviously I was expecting ambiguity but God damn it's a lot of ambiguity in the beginning I was just super overwhelmed thankfully I was an early employee at startups for years now so I was kind of bred for it but it
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make a career change obviously I was
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expecting ambiguity but God damn it's a
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lot of ambiguity in the beginning I was
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just super overwhelmed thankfully I was
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an early employee at startups for years
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now so I was kind of bred for it but it
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just took me a while to acclimate but what really helped was realizing like okay number one I deliberately put myself into this situation and number two I really want to enjoy this process I want to have have fun and what's going to allow me to enjoy and have fun is to
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what really helped was realizing like
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okay number one I deliberately put
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myself into this situation and number
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two I really want to enjoy this process
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I want to have have fun and what's going
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to allow me to enjoy and have fun is to
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let go of worrying about things that are just out of my control for the majority of my 20s I battled a lot of like unknowns that would keep me up at night unknowns were related to my family situation these were the kind of unknowns that I knew I probably wouldn't
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just out of my control for the majority
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of my 20s I battled a lot of like
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unknowns that would keep me up at night
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unknowns were related to my family
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situation these were the kind of
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unknowns that I knew I probably wouldn't
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get any Clarity on 5 to 10 years out but funnily enough last month all of those unknowns became knowns just seeing everything unfold so unexpectedly just really made me realize that there is truly no point I'm worrying about something that may or may not happen and even if those things do happen it's just
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funnily enough last month all of those
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unknowns became knowns just seeing
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everything unfold so unexpectedly just
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really made me realize that there is
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truly no point I'm worrying about
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something that may or may not happen and
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even if those things do happen it's just
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not worth robbing the present moment after reflecting on all of this I think my takeaway is that change is really good and sometimes you just need to shake up your life like it's a snow globe in order to seen you perspectives you know not long ago I was wrestling with should I quit my job and
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moment after reflecting on all of this I
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think my takeaway is that change is
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really good and sometimes you just need
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to shake up your life like it's a
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snow globe in order to seen you
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perspectives you know not long ago I was
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wrestling with should I quit my job and
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make this career change and do something I've always wanted to do but I was so scared and now looking back it's so painfully obvious to me that you know the first step is always the hardest wherever you're at in life maybe you're looking to make a change whether that's big or small in your career or not in
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I've always wanted to do but I was so
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scared and now looking back it's so
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painfully obvious to me that you know
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the first step is always the hardest
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wherever you're at in life maybe you're
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looking to make a change whether that's
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big or small in your career or not in
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your career I just want to let you know that you're not alone and the Bears repat repeating so I'll say it again the first step is always the hardest and obviously I'm still in the thick of it so thank you for being a witness in my journey as always and I will see you in the next
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that you're not alone and the Bears
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repat repeating so I'll say it again the
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first step is always the hardest and
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obviously I'm still in the thick of it
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so thank you for being a witness in my
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journey as always and I will see you in
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