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ago and we unknowingly started this like tradition where we make a video talking about the things that we learn in the prior year in lieu of celebrating getting older here are three things we learned last year should we do a happy birthday cheers
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tradition where we make a video talking
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about the things that we learn in the
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prior year in lieu of celebrating
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getting older here are three things we
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learned last year should we do a happy
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birthday cheers
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getting older things will be messy and that's okay practice gratitude and patience i feel like everyone can agree that getting older feels very stressful in some ways because you feel like you have all these milestones that you need to hit and every year is almost like a reminder of like hey you're not quite there yet you
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things will be messy and that's okay
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practice gratitude and patience i feel
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like everyone can agree that getting
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older feels very stressful
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in some ways
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because you feel like you have all these
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milestones that you need to hit and
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every year is almost like a reminder of
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like hey you're not quite there yet you
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got more work to do and time is ticking so it's funny because amy and i tried this like new thing where in december we both read through all of our journal entries from the past year and it's like an exercise i highly recommend to you all but it was so interesting to be kind of like an
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so it's funny because amy and i tried
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this like new thing where in december we
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both read through all of our journal
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entries from the past year
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and it's like an exercise i highly
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recommend to you all but it was so
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interesting to be kind of like an
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objective observer into your innermost thoughts for example every time i expressed feeling some type of anxiety i would enter this self-soothing tendency of idealizing my perfect future and i realized it was actually not productive at all it was a matter of like soothing my anxieties rather than doing something productive even though on paper it looked very
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thoughts for example every time i
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expressed feeling some type of anxiety i
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would enter this
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self-soothing tendency of idealizing my
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perfect future and i realized it was
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actually not productive at all it was a
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matter of like soothing my anxieties
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rather than doing something productive
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even though on paper it looked very
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productive i think on that same note like when we were doing the exercise of reading all our past journal entries from this year the word timing came up so damn much in all my entries like i want this by this time and i was basically trying to optimize for perfect plans looking back rather than
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like when we were doing the exercise of
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reading all our past journal entries
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from this year the word timing came up
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so damn much in all my entries like i
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want this by this time and i was
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basically trying to optimize for perfect
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plans looking back rather than
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optimizing for those perfect plans and optimizing for those perfect plans and timing time just passing by actually resolved a lot of my anxieties and i think from there i saw like how patience is really key because we're not gonna get things in the timing that we want it's almost like that aspect of humility that you
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optimizing for those perfect plans and timing
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time just passing by actually resolved a
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lot of my anxieties and i think from
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there i saw like how patience is really
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key because we're not gonna get things
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in the timing that we want it's almost
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like that aspect of humility that you
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need to bring into the picture because it's not gonna happen overnight so i have a really good friend her name is andy and she is like the one person that always challenges me like jenny you need to practice gratitude and i'm like okay i will practice my gratitudes so i got in this habit of whenever i'm journaling
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it's not gonna happen overnight so i
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have a really good friend her name is
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andy and she is like the one person that
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always challenges me like jenny you need
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to practice gratitude and i'm like okay
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i will practice my gratitudes so i got
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in this habit of whenever i'm journaling
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instead of writing out all of these idealized plans for my future i would just think about the present moment and write things that i'm grateful for like to the smallest things of like oh i love my dispersal machine to the biggest things of like oh i'm so thankful for amy and like for 20 somethings and i
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idealized plans for my future i would
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just think about the present moment and
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write things that i'm grateful for like
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to the smallest things of like oh i love
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my dispersal machine to the biggest
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things of like oh i'm so thankful for
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amy and like for 20 somethings and i
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realized that was so much more grounding in a way because essentially this like idealized planning is a form of escapism you're just escaping from the present but the present is the only thing that's actually real this is reality you know i guess to wrap it up it's a real thing
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in a way because essentially this like
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idealized planning is a form of escapism
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you're just escaping from the present
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but the present is the only thing that's
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actually real this is reality you know i
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guess to wrap it up it's a real thing
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that as you get older there will be more expectations and more stressors but you still want to be happy like you still want to practice happiness and i think for jenny and i it was what am i grateful for but also just understanding like patience can take you far and i think it's almost like when
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expectations and more stressors but you
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still want to be happy
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like you still want to practice
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happiness and i think for jenny and i it
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was what am i grateful for but also just
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understanding like patience can take you
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far and i think it's almost like when
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you obsess over something the more and more time feels so slow but just being patient and letting the universe god whatever you believe in do its thing to shake validating yourself is not always validating yourself is not always intuitive do the uncomfortable inner work so what do we mean by inner work for
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more time feels so slow but just being
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patient and letting the universe
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god whatever you believe in do its thing
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to shake
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validating yourself is not always
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validating yourself is not always intuitive
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do the uncomfortable inner work
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so what do we mean by inner work for
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myself it was self-worth and for amy it myself it was self-worth and for amy it was was self-advocacy and i think for me i feel like self-worth is such a loaded word everyone's like oh self-worth self-worth god have that whatever and i thought i had it and i thought i had it down pat
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myself it was self-worth and for amy it was
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was self-advocacy
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and i think for me i feel like
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self-worth is such a loaded word
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everyone's like oh self-worth self-worth
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god have that whatever and i thought i
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had it and i thought i had it down pat
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but i think i've also come to realize that through observing myself with certain people in my life that my foundations had a lot more cracks than i initially realized so for example i think putting someone on a pedestal can actually be really harmful because their words about you can really potentially damage what i thought about me and
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that through observing myself with
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certain people in my life that my
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foundations had a lot more cracks than i
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initially realized so for example i
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think putting someone on a pedestal can
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actually be really harmful because their
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words about you can really potentially
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damage what i thought about me and
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that's kind of like what happened and that kind of led to me going into this whole journey of like rediscovering like what do i love about me like who am i and like all of that stuff i also like how self-worth was an ongoing journey for you but you also spoke to how people
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and that kind of led to me going into
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this whole journey of like rediscovering
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like what do i love about me like who am
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i and like all of that stuff i also like
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how self-worth was an ongoing journey
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for you but you also spoke to how people
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in your life helped you for me at least like even though there was so much love i wasn't in the position or in the mind state to even receive that love and it was only when i really felt like oh for example like amy was extending so much empathy towards like who i am not
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like even though there was so much love
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i wasn't in the position or in the mind
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state to even receive that love
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and it was only when i really felt like
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oh for example like amy was extending so
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much empathy towards like who i am not
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who i am in my highs or who am i in my lows but just like who am i as a person like when i'm listening to you it sounds also like yes self-worth is so important and it comes from within but it also comes from the people you surround yourself with because you're giving
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lows but just like who am i as a person
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like when i'm listening to you it sounds
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also like yes self-worth is so important
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and it comes from within but it also
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comes from the people you surround
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yourself with because you're giving
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everyone access to yourself and the privilege of like speaking into your life i guess for me like it was more self-advocacy the first step to that was learning to connect my emotions to my needs and then taking those needs to speak up for myself life is actually a lot harder if you don't have difficult
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privilege of like speaking into your
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life i guess for me like it was more
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self-advocacy the first step to that was
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learning to connect my emotions to my
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needs and then taking those needs to
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speak up for myself life is actually a
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lot harder if you don't have difficult
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lot harder if you don't have difficult conversations and you're always teaching people how to treat you and i think that valuing yourself enough to even communicate out these unmet needs that you have it always comes up again and again and you almost have to like make yourself smaller to keep experiencing those things that actually make you feel
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and you're always teaching people how to
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treat you and i think that valuing
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yourself enough to even communicate out
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these unmet needs that you have it
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always comes up again and again and you
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almost have to like make yourself
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smaller to keep experiencing those
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things that actually make you feel
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really sad or angry what i've witnessed as like your friend was that once you were able to advocate verbally with yourself like this is what i need and like this is what i want i think i saw you really like step into your power and you were able to be a lot more brave
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as like your friend was that
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once you were able to
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advocate verbally with yourself like
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this is what i need and like this is
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what i want i think i saw you really
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like step into your power
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and you were able to be a lot more brave
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self-empowerment as cheesy as that sounds is legit navigating career things will make sense in hindsight pay attention to your career today i think the big thing for a lot of us 20s is our career right like what the do we want to do with our lives and i feel like for me i've started to realize the importance
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sounds is legit
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navigating career
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things will make sense in hindsight pay
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attention to your career today i think
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the big thing for a lot of us 20s is our
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career right like what the do we
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want to do with our lives and i feel
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like for me
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i've started to realize the importance
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of like looking at the now and what does my career look like today and valuing that versus always just dreaming about like my dream career and also recognizing that where i'm at now and what that dream career is doesn't necessarily have to be at odds we say like pay attention to your career today
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my career look like today and valuing
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that versus always just dreaming about
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like my dream career and also
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recognizing that where i'm at now and
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what that dream career is doesn't
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necessarily have to be at odds we say
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like pay attention to your career today
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it doesn't necessarily mean like paying attention to your jobs day-to-day it means paying attention to your experience feelings and thoughts that you're having you know in one of my jobs i knew that i didn't see a long-term future there for myself and that was really discouraging like in the present day i had an internal move within that
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attention to your jobs day-to-day it
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means paying attention to your
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experience feelings and thoughts that
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you're having you know in one of my jobs
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i knew that i didn't see a long-term
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future there for myself and that was
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really discouraging like in the present
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day i had an internal move within that
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company that i could have made but i wasn't really excited about it i decided to like listen to that feeling and i decided not to go for it and it was a really scary thing at the moment because i didn't really see a clear path forward ultimately like you need to trust
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wasn't really excited about it i decided
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to like listen to that feeling and i
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decided not to go for it and it was a
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really scary thing at the moment because
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i didn't really see a clear path forward
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ultimately like you need to trust
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yourself and listen to yourself in order to build a future where you're happy so i think amy hers was like she was following like an intuition like a hunch that she was feeling and i think for me it was more of like valuing my current experience so for example
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to build a future where you're happy so
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i think amy hers was like she was
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following like an intuition like a hunch
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that she was feeling and i think for me
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it was more of like valuing my current
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experience so for example
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for me where i'm at at my current job at notion i am learning a lot and i'm really thankful and feel lucky to be in this kind of position but i also start to feel very at odds like real talk i'm not going to be a notion for the rest of
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notion i am learning a lot and i'm
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really thankful and feel lucky to be in
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this kind of position but i also start
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to feel very at odds like real talk i'm
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not going to be a notion for the rest of
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my life right and i have other dreams that i do want to accomplish and i felt at odds with where i'm at now and where i want to be in next year's time when in reality those things weren't at odds at all in fact the two desires were additive towards each other
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that i do want to accomplish
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and i felt
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at odds with where i'm at now and where
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i want to be in next year's time
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when in reality those things weren't at
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odds at all in fact the two desires were
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additive towards each other
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and i had to came to terms like what i have right now i really value and that's real right so just appreciating like the current moment and these are critical steps towards realizing what i want to do for the rest of my career so thanks so much for tuning in again you know we
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have right now i really value
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and that's real right
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so just appreciating like the current
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moment and these are critical
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steps towards realizing what i want to
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do for the rest of my career so thanks
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so much for tuning in again you know we
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always say this but we really do appreciate like every single one of our viewers and we're actually late to our dinner reservation so we gotta bounce but thanks for so we gotta bounce but thanks for watching watching bye bye Music
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